Family caregivers who are constantly on call or helping loved ones from dawn to dusk rarely find time to take a break. Caregivers can cite the list of things they do every day, but few prioritize time for themselves. Learn when and why family caregivers need respite care. Spouses and adult children caring for loved ones say that they don't have time to shower. Many rarely get 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. When told to care for themselves, most shake their heads because family members don't understand the constant and overwhelming pressures of caring for children or aging loved ones.
What family caregivers fail to recognize is that burning the candle at both ends is not good for themselves or their loved ones. Identifying caregiver burnout can help caregivers recognize that they need time away from care responsibilities.
The effects of COVID on caregivers
Caregiving responsibilities have escalated as a result of COVID. Worry about bringing the virus home from work has increased concerns of infecting loved ones and limited social contact. Support programs available before COVID, like adult day care programs, remain closed leaving caregivers with fewer options for short breaks. News of COVID lockdowns and restrictions on visiting loved ones in hospitals, nursing homes, or assisted living facilities have caregivers working harder to keep elderly parents at home. Brothers or sisters who helped with care may no longer be available due to transmitting COVID within their families.
What are respite care services?
Think of respite care services as a short break or mini vacation from care responsibilities. Respite care services offer caregivers regular intervals of time off. Caregivers dream of life before caregiving responsibilities when weekends were time for relaxation and enjoyment. Skilled nursing facilities with the assistance of hospice companies can offer around the clock care and room and board for potentially 5-11 days free of charge. Time away for the caregiver is a win-win.
When is it time to consider respite care?
When caregiving responsibilities transition from occasional to regular visits that result in family caregivers trading time from their lives, it's time to consider respite care. Ongoing care responsibilities quickly add up to 20, 30, 40, or more hours each week for daughters or sons who work full-time. Providing care 24 hours a day and 7 days a week can be stressful for spousal caregivers. Living in the same household with no time away deteriorates emotional well-being. Time dedicated to care limits family caregivers from accomplishing their personal goals and participating in social activities. Eventually, family caregivers become filled with emotions and negative feelings about care relationships. So, if you are a caregiver experiencing any of these symptoms that can lead to burnout and exhaustion, it's time to consider respite care.
Mental or physical exhaustion
Inability to sleep
Difficulty with problem-solving and planning
Feeling impatient, irritable, angry, or resentful
Decreased self-esteem that results in poor or no self-care
Withdrawal from friends and family
Headaches, heartburn, pain, or other physical health problems
Why caregivers feel they have to do it all?
Caregivers have insight into needing support six months to a year or more before seeking help. However, they report delaying because they thought they could do it all. Reasons family wait to seek caregiver support counseling or respite care include:
Guilt about asking for help or taking time off
Loved ones who lack understanding of why the caregiver needs time off
Aging parents don't want to be around strangers
Expectations by loved ones that the caregiver should do it all
No family to serve as a relief or backup caregiver
Feeling indispensable — caregivers say no one cares for my loved one as much as I do
Family members who shame the caregiver for being emotionally or physically exhausted
Parents who are unwilling to pay for outside care costs because the family caregiver is "free"
Inability to set boundaries to see their lives and needs as equally as important as a loved one
Addiction to caretaking behaviors
Are unaware that respite services exist
Why respite care benefits everyone in the family?
Respite care can relieve stress and support positive family relationships with the care receiver, spouse, children and in the workplace. As a result of taking time off from care responsibilities, self-esteem for the caregiver increases as well as the confidence to manage personal life, career, family, and social relationships. Family caregivers have more time to dedicate to self-care, including attending regular medical check-ups, participating in regular exercise, and other leisure time activities. Time off for the family caregiver creates breathing space to plan for long-term care and initiate family discussions. Caregivers gain peace of mind that ever-changing care situations can be managed, knowing that respite care schedules can be adjusted or added as needed. Please give us a call if we can assist you in any respite or caregiving needs. 256-740-5400.